Fight As If Your Life Depends On It

Valerie Silveira

Fight as if your life depends on it

Fight As If Your Life Depends On It

When my life was spiraling downward, I craved even a minute of peace. I was so tired that if someone had suggested that I fight, I might have tuned them out. That may have been your first thought when you saw the title of this article. Please, give me a moment to explain.

If life has smacked you upside the head with a two-by-four, then you are probably exhausted. Perhaps you have battled for years. So, how is it that I dare to suggest you fight some more?

First, you may have been fighting the wrong battle. Are you waiting, wishing, hoping, or even trying to make someone change? If so, that is not your battle. It is exhausting because we have zero ability to change other people.

Next, you may be battle-weary because you have given up hope of feeling happy or living in peace. It may seem that being genuinely excited about your life is out of reach.

I am here to tell you that your best days could be in front of you. Although I rode the Roller Coaster From Hell as a result of my daughter, Jamie’s addiction, and lived through her murder, I can tell you without reservation, that life is still worth living. It is worth the fight.

Your very life may not depend upon you standing up to fight, but there is a big difference between living and living life to the fullest.

My life was more of existence for over a decade. I awoke each morning with expectancy that lasted about 42 seconds. Before long, I would remind myself, “Oh yeah, this is my life.” I went through the motions of living and put on a brave face for the world. The truth was that I was dying inside.

One day, I blurted out to my husband,

“I don’t want to be here anymore. It’s too hard.”

That low point turned out to be a pivotal moment. Those words from my lips to my ears, scared me into action.

I had no idea where I was going or how I would get there, but I was no longer willing to allow my happiness to be dependent upon my daughter beating her Beast. It was time for me to take on my own. My legacy would not end as a depressed, lonely woman.

The day I stood up to fight was the first day I felt hope in years. Please make no mistake about it, there has been nothing easy about my fight, but it is the best decision I have ever made.

Fight as if your life depends on it because it does.

You are too valuable to allow circumstances to take the wind out of your sails. The world deserves what you have to offer. Fight as if your life depends on it because it does.


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